The Tiny Guide to Self-Discipline

A Shaolin Monk Shows Self Discipline

Photo-Credit: Kevin Poh

“In reading the lives of great men, I found that the first victory they won was over themselves… self-discipline with all of them came first.” ~ Harry S. Truman

How many times have you said to yourself: “I really need to have more self-discipline here!” And, despite of your best intentions, how many times have you still been disappointed by your own lack of it? As it wouldn’t be hard enough to develop self-discipline, no… we usually also beat ourselves up for not having it. I know I have been there many times. But we don’t have to be a slave to our lack of self-discipline.

Why Self-Discipline Rocks

The popular belief is that self-discipline takes from you. It takes from your quality of life, makes you unrelaxed and in general gives you a hard time. It cuts from your freedom. But this is all wrong.

The opposite is true. Self-discipline will give you freedom. It will give you more abilities and resources because you know that when you say something to yourself, you will follow through. That has tremendous power.

What is Self-Discipline Anyway?

Self-Discipline is the ability to do something even if you don’t feel like doing it. [Tweet this!]

It is making you do and follow through with the difficult things. It’s really one of the highest personal qualities to have and a way of self-mastery.

Most of the time it needs you to have a more long-term perspective in order to avoid what is fun and easy and do the difficult things that will lead to quality of life and long-term happiness.

What’s the problem here?

Now the main problem comes when we continuously fail to do what we have to do and give in to the easy way out - only to be greatly disappointed by our behavior the day after. Or even worse, ignore our lack of self-discipline and rationalize it just to feel good in the moment. Don’t confuse giving in to the fun and easy with being in the present moment, that is clearly not what living in the now means.

Intelligent Solutions for Developing Self-Discipline

1. Develop a Purposeful Direction

This is the #1 hack for self-discipline. To be honest this is my main way of dealing with a lack of self-discipline. Because knowing your goals clearly and having a purposeful direction in your life makes showing self-discipline much easier! It is aligning what you want with what you need. Self-discipline is to some extend a substitute for having motivation. So you could say this “hack” is the most intelligent and proactive way to deal with the issue of self-discpline. In fact, you couldn’t even talk about it as self-discipline anymore. Now you are naturally driven to do what it takes. What looks to others as iron self-discipline feels to you as just naturally doing the obvious. And you have fun doing it. Start with igniting your desire and setting goals from it.

Of course you could argue while it is a very intelligent behavior, it is not necessarily building up the ability to have self-discipline. And that’s right. It’s avoiding the need for self-discipline proactively. So let’s see how we really can build the quality of self-discipline itself:

2. Take Courage to Face the Difficult Things

“The trick … is not minding that it hurts.” ~ Lawrence of Arabia

This is kind of the ultimate tip in order to really build up your self-discipline. It is a practice of continuously doing the right thing, and resisting the urge of getting an immediate gratification. This builds character and you will feel extremely good about yourself after you went through all the difficulties and stretched yourself in order to get there.

Sometimes you just have to force yourself to start and do things. Focus single-mindedly on your challenge in order to have all your resources available. When you feel the urge to give up, remind yourself of the reward you will get. Think long-term. Maybe even be inspired by the Shaolin Monks. This is how you build success and self-discipline.

3. Train Your Mind

Self-Discipline is a quality of an evolved character. It will naturally develop if you enjoy personal growth and make developing your mind a habit. Self-Discipline and Willpower will be the result. The key is to really enjoy personal development because you know that you do one of the best investments you could do: investing in yourself. Feeding your mind by reading great books and developing your ability to focus can be so much fun and the rewards are almost immediate. Building up more personal energy and generally training your body has similar positive effects.

4. Develop Your Awareness

Self-discipline has a lot in common with controlling your thoughts. In order to gain control of your thoughts, you have to be aware of them as being thoughts, nothing more. It’s not reality and you are not your mind, it’s merely a representation of reality. Being aware of your thoughts gives you the ability to make a choice. A choice whether you want to follow your thought or want to go a different way. Then you are able to resist the short-term pleasures and go for what is important to you instead. Awareness also builds inner space and inner peace.

5. Form a Helpful Environment and Peer Group

The environment has a strong influence on us and the way we live. Especially the people around us, your peer group, will influence your decisions greatly. We need to actively select a supportive environment and people who make our life better not worse. One very good idea is to become part of a master-mind group (introduced by Napolean Hill in Think and Grow Rich), people like you who have the same goals and dreams as you, who support you and whom you support back.

Those are my 5 top ways of dealing with self-discipline. If you have anything to add and questions, do so in the comment section below!

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14 Comments

  • Johnathan

    September 18, 2012

    Myrko, it struck me like a lightening when I read the first hack. Yes, if I am proactive and know what I want, I won’t struggle with not having self-discipline anymore. Great insights! Thanks.

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  • Myrko

    September 18, 2012

    Thanks for your insight Johnathan. As I said, for me it’s my favorite way to deal with self-discipline, not needing it ;-)

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  • Aggy

    September 19, 2012

    I came to the point that I have to learn self-discipline and no one around me has even mastered that skill so far. It wasn’t really important to my family and friends tho all think about self-discipline like a punishment, exactly like you have written in your article. Changing my habits seems incredibly difficult BUT, will try to follow your advice and many others, which can be found in self-development books. Great job in all your articles so far, I’ve got them printed and hopefully, it will finally work, along with my life.

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  • Myrko

    September 19, 2012

    Hi Aggy, I think you are going the right way here. Keep at it, it’s getting easier when forming the habit. Thanks for leaving your note!

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  • G. B. Rao

    September 20, 2012

    It is an excellent article with precise analysis and powerful suggestions. The whole thing looks so simple and easy to comprehend. However, the real challenge is in adaption by the individual. I myself carving for ‘self discipline’ for many years feel confident now with this tiny yet powerful article. Big thanks Myrko

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  • Owl

    September 20, 2012

    I love your work.
    I have one problem though, with my ‘self’. I’m afraid of change, especially change of character, because the world knows the ‘fake’ me. My real self overly stands out, eventually people start talking. What should i do about ‘such’?

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  • Myrko

    September 20, 2012

    Thanks G.B. Rao. Yes, the actual implementation is usually much more difficult, I struggle with it myself. Maybe we just follow that corny spell and “Just Do It” ;-)

    Owl, ultimately, do you want to please other people or please and be true to yourself?

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  • Owl

    September 20, 2012

    Ultimately huh…
    I never looked at it that way. Thanks for the logic.

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  • TJ@How-toBeHappy.com

    September 21, 2012

    Great post Myrko – I’ve been fighting self-discipline lately with both my sleep habits (consistency) and my blog (productivity). You have written a lot of insight here – I especially like #5, I wish there were more people around me pursuing blogging as a way to live. I guess I’ll have to stick to the internet for now!

    Keep up the great work.
    TJ
    http://how-tobehappy.com/

    *Typos caught (I appreciate it when people tell me. Ressources x 3 = resources and #2 Thinks = Things). If you’d like I’ll read all your new post and proof-them leaving my remarks in a comment, if you do the same for my blog! You have my email, just let me know, :D.

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  • Myrko

    September 21, 2012

    TJ, thanks! I do appreciate it.

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  • Libra55

    December 2, 2012

    DEar Myrko, I do not know where to start – could you please suggest some place on the central coast where you may learn personal development and growth classes . Thankyou

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  • Myrko

    December 3, 2012

    @Libra55, I’m organized more over the internet. Have you looked into my intro course to personal development yet? It’s delivered via email.

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  • Harry @ GoalsOnTrack

    January 13, 2013

    Great advice on building self-discipline.

    I think to become more self-disciplined we first must like the idea of being self-disciplined, and then gradually turn our thinking around so that we can learn to love doing things that we used to hate so much. Find joy in things we think we hate doing, and give it some time we may find that they’re actually not that repulsive after all.

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  • Myrko Thum

    January 14, 2013

    That’s a good point Harry. I think in the introduction here I touched the point by “The popular belief is that self-discipline takes from you. … The opposite is true. Self-discipline will give you freedom.”

    It’s like changing your limiting belief about self-discipline.

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