I’m going to be a father very soon. It will be two girls – so you can imagine how excited I am.
I took some time to reflect and think about how I would like to be as a father. What kind of life advice can I give to my kids to help them on their path? What insights did I make, sometimes painfully, sometimes with joy, that I want to pass on to my kids?
Think about it…
If you have kids (or want to have kids), what one lesson would you want them to learn from you?
I think this is a very important question.
And the more I reflected on that question the more I noticed how universal the insights I would love to hand over to my kids really are. They could easily be given to anybody and I probably would’ve love it to get them when I was a kid. Or as an adult. Hopefully my kids will think the same…
So I will say to them:
1. You Are Enough.
Whatever you do, whatever happens, you are already 100% perfect. There is nothing you have to do to prove that you are enough. You don’t have to prove it to anybody. Because you are already enough.
In the world you will encounter difficult tasks to master and people who want to challenge you. You can take these challenges and give your best, but whatever happens will never have the power to decrease your selfworth in any way.
When you know your true self you you realize this fact as truth.
2. Your Life is in Your Hand.
You are 100% responsible for how your life turns out. What you make out of your life, your happiness, your relationships, your success, your health, your wealth, everything is in your hand.
You can influence and create your life the way you want it to be. Your thoughts are your creative power to design your life how you want it to be. You just have to take the courage and take responsibility for yourself. First think things through and then do what you need to do.
I trust in you. And you can trust in me.
3. Never Settle for Less than You Can Be.
Stand up for yourself! Assert yourself and fight for your rights when you feel the need. Don’t ever sell yourself short and always stand up for yourself.
Never be afraid to try. The worst thing that can happen is that you learn something. There is no such thing as “failure” if you stand up, learn and retry better.
Challenge yourself to come out of your comfort zone from time to time. Give your best and go for the best always. Be self-confident in what you are and what you are capable of and deserve.
Life doesn’t have to be hard. What you have to do first and foremost is get on the right track. Think about what you truly want, what you need, what life asks of you, and then focus on that.
4. Create Balance in Your Life.
Be serious. Take it easy.
Give your best. Don’t try too hard.
Think logically. Follow your feelings.
Focus on one thing. Do whatever is necessary.
Assert yourself. Be compassionate.
Happiness in all areas of life. Enjoy the peak of the moment.
Have deep relationships. Be social.
Live your passion. Start a business.
Be safe. Take risks.
Balance also means to have some kind of focus in all important areas of your life. So take care of your body and health by exercising and eating well, socialize a lot, make some room for yourself and keep an eye on your finances as well.
Balance is in the eye of the beholder. It’s different for everybody because you have different needs as I have. Listen to your inner voice. Find the right balance for you. Then life begins to flow.
5. Feed Your Mind.
Educate Yourself. Education is one of the best things to make sure you will head into the right direction in life. Get a great education and also learn all by yourself about want fascinates you. Find your passion in life and check if you can make a living from it.
Feeding your mind means giving your mind input first and foremost by reading and also by other sources of good information.
Be open for new inspirations and for different perspectives. Try to keep your curiosity up and never stop learning something new.
6. Free Your Mind.
Be active in developing yourself by learning, having goals in life and building your self-awareness.
Know yourself beyond your thoughts and beliefs. Your mind is the tool, not the master. Meditate. You can be your true self if you quiet the mind and feel what is beyond your mental stream.
Carpe Diem means seize the day. Set goals but never forget to live now.
And whatever happens, I’ll love you without condition.