One of the many good suggestions I got from you as a reply to my last newsletter was the topic of not feeling worthy enough. So I thought I’ll take the topic of worthiness and show that at the core, which is what matters, you are 100% worthy of everything you can dream of.
The feeling of not being good enough or even inadequate can act as a very self-limiting belief, which would be like a self-fulfilling prophecy: It (you) will always get in your own way. On the other side, knowing that you are enough for what you want in your life is as important for your success as it could get.
Why Do You Feel Unworthy?
Before you read any further, if you feel not good enough sometimes, maybe you take a moment to think about that question and answer it…
…write it in the comments if you like (I would be truly interested).
I think the perceived unworthiness comes from a) differences you notice by comparing yourself, for instance not having the same skill level as your competitor in a job-application or by some other rejection or loss you have to face. Or it comes from b) the fear you have of not being able to live up to what you want by projecting yourself forward and anticipating a bad outcome.
The problem here is that when you feel unworthy, you make an identity out of your situation. You start to think the unpleasant situation equals yourself, therefore it will always be like this, you are just not good enough.
But this is all wrong.
You Are Already Perfect on the Inside.
At the core, we are all equal. Nobody is more worthy than somebody else. This is the truth.
Only when you realize that you are already perfect at you core, you are really able to shine with 100% authenticity. The real you. Not some kind of mask you are wearing, the role you are playing, or your try at being how you are supposed to be. That’s not necessary. And most of the time, people who care, would like to see the real you anyway.
That’s no invitation to stop working on yourself or to show your worst side unrestrained. That’s not what I mean. With trusting that at your core you are perfect, you just know that there is nothing wrong with you, you are good enough. Of course, on the outside you can improve your skills, but you don’t have to identify yourself over them.
Stop Comparing and Start Going Your Way.
After all, comparing and copying is an awful waste of your time. While you are trying to be as somebody else (a so-called celebrity?), fit in with a certain group or fulfill the attributes of a role you play, you miss out on being the real you. You not only waste your time at the moment, you will also need some time to forget all the wrong mind-programming of how you should be.
Trusting your inner self is the best thing you can do. You don’t need evidence or justification to trust yourself. You just do it. Only then you get the opportunity to let your inner beauty shine through. That way you are in harmony on the inside and with what you reflect to the outside.
Forget About Worthiness.
One very deliberating way is to totally forget about the question of “Am I good enough?”
Most of the time that question doesn’t matter at all, and you are the only one asking it.
By stop thinking about it, you can focus your energies on what is really present in fornt of you and over time you will feel worthy naturally, by just being you and being present.
Re-Interpreting What Happens
The situation is always neutral.
You always have the choice how you will re-interprete it in your mind. The meaning is up to you! Was it a valuable learning experience on your way to your goal, or did it mean that it’s all over now?
Sometimes this can be a challenge, especially when the society around you differentiates people on superficial levels.
Here is the antidote to that:
Just don’t go with it; in your head. Nobody can drag you down without your permission. And nobody has the right to do that.
If there is someone who tries to make you feel unworthy as a human being, just disapprove of that behavior. You know that at the core you are as worthy as you could be, as anybody could be.
If there is something that you still don’t know, just learn it. If there is something you don’t have, it doesn’t matter. Your core value is not diminished by that.
To come from the standpoint of equality has a much higher moral value and shows a strong and admirable character. You can be proud of that.
Of course there are differences on external things. When you lose a game your opponent was better than you, in playing the game. But your real value as a human being and your worthiness stays untouched and is the same for both players.
And I tell you what I personally think: Anybody who shows in his actions that he doesn’t believe in equality shows a poorness of character.
Let me know your thoughts about that in the comments!