For everyone there comes a moment when it gets clear that you have to change your life. And this is a good thing, an opportunity for you to grow consciously. Not everybody has this „luxury“. Most people are forced to grow or they will have to live with the consequences of not doing so.
This is a personal development site and the question of how to change your life is central here. It is like the starting point of your journey into real personal growth. In fact, I believe that the impulse of asking this question is a key breakthrough in life. Making the decision to actively change your life opens the door to continuous positive change and self improvement. So sincere congratulations to you for just reading this, wherever you came from.
So how do you really start?
Your Willingness to Change
„Today is the first day of the rest of your life.“ ~ Anonymous
The very first thing to initiate personal change is you being ready for it. This sounds trivial but believe me, it is not.
To make anything happen you will need to have a certain willingness to change for the better. Since you are reading this, chances are great that you are ready for personal change or you are very successful on your life journey already.
I’ve seen so many people, some very close to me, who just don’t want to change and don’t even believe that change is worth it eventually. They basically don’t believe in themselves. The past has shown them over and over again that positive change is rare. But what is really influencing their opinion?
Desire vs. Pain: The Driving Forces of Change
You may have developed the desire to change because you want more than what you’re currently showing in life. Maybe you have been inspired by someone or something. Something that showed you what is possible in life has ignited the desire to grow.
Maybe there are challenges in your life right now, which need you to grow in order to keep up with what your life demands from you.
Or your motivation for change may even be because of pain. A painful situation, emotional or even physical, has a lot of potential to create your drive to change.
One thing is for sure:
There has to be some kind of willingness to change inside you. That is the initial starting point for personal growth. It is a major shift in thinking when you first start to consciously pursue changing your live. Change happens naturally all the time and by taking control over it willingly, you made an important key decision. From that moment on, when you follow through, a lot will change for the better.
So if you haven’t done so yet, make this decision once and for all: „I change now, no matter what!“
Your Belief that You Can Change for the Better
„Whether you believe you can or you can’t, either way you’re right.“ ~ Henry Ford
You have to believe in your own ability to change. More than that, to really be driven to change you have to believe that you can create positive change. You can really improve your life situation, massively. You can create not only a good, but your own perfect life!
This is a key belief – a necessity. This belief will empower you because now you know that every effort you put into changing your life is a real investment for a better future. It will pay off 100%. And it is not only 100% worth it, eventually it will get you exactly what you want. This will create real motivation and drive. You will love to work on yourself.
So know that you can absolutely change to what you desire most! It’s worth every second of your effort.
Know WHY You Want to Change Your Life
You have to know WHY you want to change, because the „Why“ acts as the fuel for your efforts. Whenever you are uncertain about your actions you will remember your reason to change. So you need to create a strong enough „Why“!
As an example: If you would want to make it to financial independence, then WHY do you want that? You don’t want the paper bills in your wallet. What you want is the freedom that financial independence will give you. Further more you want the feeling of not being limited in your choices of what you do and what you own. And you don’t want to think about money all the time. You want to experience the feeling of freedom and resourcefulness.
On the other hand, you don’t want all the negative things associated with not having enough money. For instance being broke, having to work for money in a job that you don’t like, not being able to provide for your family and yourself etc. You don’t want the negative emotions of feeling worthless and a failure in life.
Both, the positive and the negative sides, are your WHY in that case. The Key here is to seeing the improved and better life clearly, as well as knowing the part that you don’t want. Keeping that WHY in front of your mind will keep your drive up.
Take Responsibility Now
„Be the change you want to see in this world.“ ~ Gandhi
Now, you are willing to change your life and you know for certain that you CAN do it and that it is 100% worth it. You see the better life. The very first step is to take and feel the responsibility you have for yourself. You are the one who will make it happen. It’s not a burden, it is liberation. You are in the drivers seat, you are in control of your life now!
I wrote an article on itself about taking responsibility as the initial starting point and first step in personal development, which was one of the first when I was starting this site. I suggest you read it here: Take Responsibility in Your Life.
5 Practical Tips to Changing Your Life:
To start your change for the better, I would recommend you take action and make a positive change for yourself right now. Here are just some recommendations that I already wrote about in detail. Choose what would help you the most to start your desired change:
- Follow up with some real commitment and set some powerful goals for your life
- Make your life simpler to have more time for what matters most to you
- Care for your body and start to increase your personal energy and fitness level
- Improve your mind and increase your mental focus to be more effective
- Learn how to be more productive within the time you have available
Last but not least, this whole website Personal Development that Transforms is all about powerful personal improvement. So dive into my personal development blog posts and I would recommend subscribing to my free personal development newsletter which starts with a 5 Day course as a perfect follow up to this article.
Yes, awesome Carolyn. Being a fully self-responsible person gives you power and control over your life. Use it for positive change! :)
I love the notion that I am powerful because I get to take the responsiblility solely for my life circumstances. Just feeling that power puts me in a good feeling state of vibration–which can only attract more postive to me– me, only me, can do that for me. I have choices and I chose the right ones that are right for me. No one else knows what is right for me ultimately. I choose to listen to and respect myself by taking full responsiblility for how my life is working. I am grateful for the experiences, both good and bad that I have had. I will forever learn and evolve.
Thanks for your wonderful insights Myrko
Carla, there are always 3 ways to deal with a situation:
1. Change it,
2. Accept it (and move on, making the best of focussing on something new) or
3. Leave it
Your question is too generic to give specific advice, but move to power again by taking responsibility for your OWN state. Look at something different where you find desire and goals that fulfill you. Maybe connect with other people in similar situations or people who help you out of it, maybe professionally.
Good luck to you.
i stumbled upon your blog after researching on what can i do to be unstuck in a hopeless situation…… what piece of advice can you give me whos losing hope and feels trapped and whos circumstance is not going to change anytime soon?
Hey Derek, nice to have you. For a reason I personally feel the inner urge to simplify my life. When I made the experience how something getting more and more complex eventually lost it’s quality, it became obvious to me that keeping it simple and focussed is the way to go. Since then keeping it simple is part of my personality. And simple doesn’t mean less ambitious, on the contrary, it’s just more of what matters.
I checked your blog flawd.net and I like your posts too! Will be reading some more…
I found myself stumbling upon your Facebook page by way of a Facebook ad, and as with most personal development writers, I found myself immediately WANTING to dislike what I read. But then I found myself agreeing with post after post, so I made the trip over here to your blog, and I have to say that I completely agree with your take on change – and dig your voice in general. Out of the five practical tips, I find that #2 is the hardest to do on an ongoing basis. Just like I need to maintain the appearance of my yard by consistently pulling weeds, I need to maintain the simplicity of my life by removing the unnecessary and wasteful parts of it. Thanks for the great read.