I recently turned 30. Changing the first digit in your age is one of those moments when you’re inclined to really think about the way you’ve lived your life so far and the way you want to live it from that point onward. At least it was for me.
It’s not unusual for some feelings of regret to set in. And that gets you thinking how you can prevent it from happening again in the future. Happily for me, I have few feelings of regret about the way I lived my life so far. And I think the lessons I’ve learned will allow me to live a life of no regrets from this moment forward.
In this guest-post Jorge Blanco writes: “The very first time I found myself determined to achieve a goal was during my teenage years when I wanted to go to Japan and study Computer Science there.
It was the biggest dream for me at the time and I was able to achieve it.
But after a year, I suddenly realized I wasn’t feeling as elated as I imagined I would be. I felt lost and empty…”
Is Self-Help Actually Helping You?
If you answered no, it’s okay.
There’s a huge problem with self-help.
It’s not real.
That means it’s not realistic and certain aspects of self-help actually borders on being lies, straight up.
Or have you wondered why, after reading up on so self-help that you still don’t feel like a better person?
That’s where the problems come in.
Flying and learning to fly had its moments and just like the process I used to keep the engine properly handled and in good operating condition, I had to learn healthy ways to dissipate my own build up of internal energy (better known as anxiety) !
I discovered early in the game that if I didn’t deal with the butterflies of anticipation and nervousness that often preceded a big flying event, not only was I defocused and jittery but I also could not enjoy the exquisite experience in which I was participating.
There it was, the moment in which I made my exit after conversing with a beautiful girl for the past 30 minutes.
The time came and I already had mentioned I needed somewhere to be, so now’s the time to get the number; it’s either now or never. You know you’re never going to see her again. Just ask for the number; she obviously likes you. Then I walk away, with “It was great to meet you.” A quick exchange of smiles occurs.
Lying awake in the middle of the night torments me. I worry about being too tired in the morning. I toss and turn for hours on end. You have no idea how stressful this is unless you suffer from it yourself.
Read in this guest post how Michael learned more about his insomnia problem and then was even able to reevaluate the whole situation coming out on top of it…
As a kid my dad encouraged me to strive for the best. In his mind I was gifted and would surly go on to do great things. He pushed me to believe that anything was within my reach. I began to think of success as a choice and not something that was destined upon you.
If I wanted to be a success in life, if I wanted that million dollar mansion on the beach, I could have it. All I would have to do is to believe it is possible, and with enough ambition and hard work I would do it. It was a great way of thinking and it encouraged me to dream big. The only problem is, I took it too far…
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