I believe at the core of comparing lies the fear of inferiority. Feeling inferior or inadequate is really hard to tolerate, so we do anything to check if there is a slight chance of being inadequate. This need to validate yourself leads to comparing, in the hope to come to the conclusion that you are ok. Then you know that you are enough.
So in this post I’m going to answer the first questions to my latest “Ask me Anything!” email. The topic is jealousy and how to stop comparing yourself to others. We will look at 4 methods to break the habit of comparing yourself to others and at more constructive ways how you can deal with jealousy if you feel it.
Flying and learning to fly had its moments and just like the process I used to keep the engine properly handled and in good operating condition, I had to learn healthy ways to dissipate my own build up of internal energy (better known as anxiety) !
I discovered early in the game that if I didn’t deal with the butterflies of anticipation and nervousness that often preceded a big flying event, not only was I defocused and jittery but I also could not enjoy the exquisite experience in which I was participating.
What is the most important thing for you in your life? What, at it’s core, is what you want most in life? I bet it’s the same thing as for most people: at the deepest level you want to… feel good.
Even when you said peace of mind, or good luck for your family, if you think about what that gives you… it’s really a feeling. A feeling of peace, safety, contentment, happiness.
Your emotions are determining how you feel. Most emotions repeat themselves over and over again – in other words: the kind of emotions you feel are similar day in and day out. And the quality of your life, how you perceive your life, is heavily influenced by the emotions you feel regularly.
Are You Feeling Your Favorite Emotions Daily?
One of the many good suggestions I got from you as a reply to my last newsletter was the topic of not feeling worthy enough. So I thought I’ll take the topic of worthiness and show that at the core, which is what matters, you are 100% worthy of everything you can dream of.
The feeling of not being good enough or even inadequate can act as a very self-limiting belief, which would be like a self-fulfilling prophecy: It (you) will always get in your own way. On the other side, knowing that you are enough for what you want in your life is as important for your success as it could get.
Your fear is what is holding you back most in life. If you really look at it and are honest with yourself: What is the reason why you didn’t do things that you might regret a bit today?
It’s most probably somehow linked to the emotion of fear.
On the other hand, facing your fear is often connected with what you have to do in order to grow the most in your life. It’s probably exactly the area where you have to go right now. Facing your fear will exactly create the breakthrough that is waiting for you.
It’s a very common thing: You set out some nice plans and started very motivated with something that seemed so important to you at the time. But then, somehow, it wears off. The initial drive is gone, things seem to be tough again, it’s no fun anymore. And somehow it doesn’t look so interesting anymore, anyway. What happened? The simple answer: You didn’t follow through. But why?
Have you ever noticed how negative emotions can completely consume your reality and how strange, frustrating or hopeless everything seemed at those moments? I know from the feedback that I am getting to this site that many people would like to break out of the cycle of continuous emotional drama and finally overcome negativity.
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